Our society has grown up with all modern traditions. Now I can see almost every women and women of my mother’s age wear jeans top, Western dresses, living a modern lifestyle, partying, clubbing, etc, which is a great change for women and I appreciate this change. So, are we modern enough to live in 2020? I don’t think so as the thought process is still the same for females especially.
Why is that when a female talk about her freedom it is only associated with the dressing and a lifestyle? For me being modern is to think modern. Your clothes and lifestyle can never define who you are. Are we letting our women choose life for themselves as per their choices without making any judgment? Hell no. So, are we modern enough to live in 2020? Think again. And I can say that since I come across many women who wanted to do something good for themselves but due to their families, relatives, community, society, etc they can’t. Men can choose whatever career for themselves but when it’s about women we need to answer to few questions before we accept the offer letter and this tradition of asking such questions needs to be stopped immediately.
Such questions are.
- Will you be back before 7 pm? Because if not, then late working would not be good for your security or your married life.
- I hope your weekends are off else you will not be able to give time to your family.
- Will you be able to focus on your kid while working? In India raising a child is solely a mother’s responsibility.
- Who will cook when you are working late?
- You spend too much time in your room. Even if you are working from home and loaded with lots of work.
- Stay at home on your weekends as you hardly stay home. Your office hours are taking all the family time.
Stop putting restrictions, asking questions, or enforcing your rule book on females. They are human too and have ambitions. Let her grow the way she wants to. Don’t cut her wings instead let her fly. Respect her choices for a healthy relationship. She does love spending time with her family and she would love to do anything for her loved ones but don’t make any sort of rules that she needs to follow. All the people out there who are from different generations if you can’t match up today’s generation then please do not try to mold today’s generation as per your generation.
Question: How are you so lucky to choose your modeling career even after your marriage? You wear amazing dresses. I wish my parents/ In-laws/ husband/ society should have allowed me to wear such clothes as you do.
Answer – Okay! First of all, I think people make their luck by themselves. You cannot always blame your luck if things don’t go well as planned as you gave up before even trying. And now if you talk about my modeling career or clothes then I don’t ask my parents/In-laws/husband/society for choosing my career or my clothes. Does choosing my career or clothes would harm them in any way? Obviously no. So, if you are doing something good for your life and career without harming others then why you need the approval to do that? Wear that damn dress girl. Go and grab that opportunity without any fear. Pursuing my career or dressing up the way I want to even after my wedding is my right, not the perks of having an open-minded family.
So, to all the females who are still behind the wall created by society its high time to break them. Choose your life without any fear. Have the courage to break the wall and stand up for yourself. Our society is not at all convincing so stop wasting time doing that rather build your career. Be who you want to be for yourself and one day when you will be on the top your parents and your loved ones will understand why you fought for your dreams.
And after reading this blog please ask yourself ” Are we modern enough to live in 2020″? I hope now you have an answer.
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xoxo – Apoorva Srivastava.
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